Happy Friday !!
Today we will be going with the second part of Dating in Modern Days. I appreciate and thank the people who bother to read the last part. We left the first part in that marriage is a covenant and that having an active sexual relationship outside of marriage is definitely not Okay. I speak from experience that being sexually immoral at the end it only takes you deeper into a hole of despair that you feel there is no coming out from. Sexual Immorality is any sexual act that brings pleasure to your body for example Adultery(infidelity) fornication( premarital sex, masturbation).
There was a time in my life that masturbation and pornography was my escape from the chaos that was my life. My head space was chaotic and my heart too; I tried to fill a void and tried to take control of a situation that was out of my control. I descended into that depravity after I was sexually abused as a child in my home country. I was traumatized and that was the only way I could “control” my life in my way of thinking.
To start dating your spiritual life cannot be a chaos; that is a big no, no. If your spiritual house is not in order how will you keep your marriage or house in order. I’m going to sound so cliché but one thing you need to do is put your want to start dating in prayer; ask God before taking that step. You might feel that it’s time; however you do not know what God has in store for you. Many of us lack wisdom to make life changing decisions and we pretty much screw up when we take the wrong one.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
James 1:5
Many people are risk takers in the body of Christ and outside of it; there are opportunities where you have to be one but this area it is not. Taking a rash decision without counsel will bring huge changes to your life that will follow you until you meet our maker. Patiently waiting for the man or woman who God has for you; it’s a small price to the blessing that will be your life after you are married and before; because you waited a lifetime for that person. You making a rush decision could bring pain and suffering as well heartache to your life just because you thought it was what you need. I will be clear and I mean no offense but no one in this life knows their own needs; the only one that those is God. He is our creator; many of us were in darkness and walked in darkness did we think we needed God; a lot of us would respond with a big NO. That’s because we humans let our emotions and heart control our minds and guide every decision that we make; instead of leaving everything in God’s hands.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight
God knows you! He knows your every need. Leave everything in his hands and if you can’t wait then start praying fervently just like Hannah did for her Samuel and God will hear you prayer; don’t get frustrated if he does not answer fast; keep persisting but don’t make rash decisions.
1.Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
One of the biggest mistakes believers do is that a lot of them marry people of a different faith or unbelievers. The bible is specific and cuts down to the bone; how we interpret what is written is up to us. I’m going to sound like a prejudiced person and that is not my intention so if you feel offended; forgive me but it’s what it’s written in the bible. Do not marry someone who is from a different faith than yours ; I seen it happen to many. They marry someone that is from a different religion or an unbeliever and end up converting to it or leaving the church altogether ; that’s a big no in Christianity. We are supposed to bring people in not leave. Many of my family members have married people of other faiths that have taken them out of from the church and or driven them to a different religion; do you know why? That’s because they did not wait on God, they decided to take matters into their own hands.
1.Corinthians 7:39
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
When you marry someone of a different faith you bring discord into the marriage because your belief might not be the same as theirs. Where do you draw the line? remember that you can’t be with a foot in and a foot out.Marriage is a unity of two people becoming one; not to keep them separate because y’all can’t decide in which church to congregate, on which beliefs to raise your children’s in or none at all. At the end your children will suffer, marriage and yourself will suffer because of decisions that you had the power to change before they were taken.
Overall what I’m trying to let you know is that wait on God, don’t rush. God has the perfect timing for everything, the best thing you can do before you start dating is make your relationship with God stronger as he is your bridegroom. That’s the most important thing that you can do; focus on that relationship that the rest will come in his time and not yours. I hope you were able to get something from this post series.💕I love you all and want the best; God is coming and it’s time to be ready for our bridegroom. Shalom🌸🌸✨✨✨ don’t forget to leave a feedback at the bottom I love talking to all of you.💕💕
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This is a really good post! I love how you weaved in your own testimony and Scriptures too.
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