Conference Recap😱😱😱

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Hey Y’all, as promised in today’s blog I will be recapping what the girls spoke and a little bit of the lesson that the pastors brought about the differences between obsessions and real love. Some of the topics that were discussed during this conference were abstinence, love, obsession, sexual abuse and much more.

The lesson was based on the story of Tamar and Amnon in the book of 2. Samuel 13. Her story is pretty sad in the sense that her own brother committed the crime of abusing her and not restoring her honor by asking marrying her as was supposed to be done in those times. Amnon’s obsession led him to commit an evil crime that destroyed not only his life but the life of Tamar. How can we differentiate what’s obsession and what’s love?

In 1 of Corinthians 13:4-8, the word gives us the definition of real love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

As youth and adults, we are tested in different areas of our lives. When someone falls in love it’s a moment of overwhelming feelings. You are happy to be in the company of your beloved, to speak about everything and nothing at all. You want to get to know that person, the butterflies feelings start to be felt in your stomach when you think, see, or spend time together with that person. To be in love is to want to protect, honor, persevere, be patient, kind, humble towards the person that you are in love with. Of course, not everything is a color of rainbows; there will be moments when circumstances will make you do mistakes but overall love never fails to conquer the unconquerable. Amnon’s actions don’t speak much of love of but instead of an attraction that became an obsession towards his half-sister; verse 15 of chapter 13 gives us an insight of his feelings.

Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”

His reaction and action give testimony of his feelings towards his sister. His so-called “Love” became hatred after having committed the act. We have to learn to differentiate between love and obsession. Sometimes the first step towards a relationship starts with attraction, it could either develop to real love or could become something worse as an obsession. It’s almost as bad as the fans of famous artists that proclaim their love for their stars but a lot of times their actions contradict them; in the end, it became an obsession.

At the conference, we spoke about abstinence in saving ourselves for marriage also about purity. Being pure is not only from abstaining from sex outside of marriage but also your thoughts and emotions. Remember that from the “heart speaks the mouth. ” We might be abstaining from sinning with our body but we are sinning in our hearts and mind. We also spoke a little bit of sexual abuse and it’s side effects to the victims. I spoke of my testimony and how being a victim, completely changed my attitude but also almost took me to a path of change in sexual orientation. By God’s mercy, I am the Ana of today without any type of emotional crisis. When we let God work in our lives and let him actually guide us as he wants we will see the change within us and around us. Influences affected me a lot, however, God never let go of me in my moments of doubt, fear, rebellion, and depression.

What can I say, I had much fun at this conference and cannot wait for the male and female conference that will be held in a few months. Learning to wait in God and his promises, not to rush and actually letting him prepare us for the day that we will be wife or husband to the person he has for us.

P. S. God Bless, hope that everyone has a beautiful weekend. I will be writing the blog post of Called with a purpose this weekend, however, it will not be posted until later in the week as I want to go a little deeper in his story but also it will be my mother’s 50th birthday and we are celebrating it with confetti and food🤪😂😂, just kidding. But we will definitely celebrate it so I want to give her all my attention this weekend.

Dating in Modern Days👫👫💑

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Hello everyone this blog post will be a one or two-part blog series it will depend if I cover all the areas of Godly Dating in this modern days. Now I want to let everyone know this post is not written by an experienced dater or married one ; but I have had experiences that I will go into detail later on; so please when you start reading this post go with an open mind.

Dating in modern days have become physical and emotional thing. Adults and teenagers have focused their eyes, heart and mind to relationships and people who bring no fulfillment to their lives. A couple of blog post back I wrote about the Samaritan woman at the well; how Jesus asked for a drink from her and she received a greater blessing after her encounter with the Lord.

One big thing that you have to do before you start dating is look at your relationship with God. Ask yourselves this question; Am I in a place where I can start a relationship that will lead to marriage? Is my heart ready for this next step? Dating is not to be taken lightly; as christian we do not have nor should we want the option of;  I’m going to taste the goods and if I  don’t like it I will leave it. That is not how it works, in the old testament well actually in Genesis 2:18 the Lord said ;

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Many mistakes that we make when we start dating is that; we do not go with the expectation of finding that helpmate; we start dating because we are pressured by society, family, and even the church. When God created the helpmate for Adam; he did not decide if she is not good for him he will make him another. Adam and Eve they stayed together until one of them died, through being cast out from Eden, Cain murdering his brother Abel and more.

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good
    and receives favor from the Lord.

Dating is not bad; however it has become carnal in the world and inside the church. Who does not miss the days when you were courting someone you were not allowed to hold hands, nor kiss or anything improper that could make you sin; those were the good old days. Dating is not learning each others dreams, learning about each other and just enjoying being young without going to the limit of sinning against God and your body and mind too anymore. Sexual relationship have taken the center of relationship; one thing that I see in youth and adults nowadays they are all over each other; there is a saying ” they knead as if they were bakers.” Which is funny for me and at the same time true; the story of Isaac and Rebecca is pretty astonishing because this woman didn’t let her fiance or betrothed see her without her veil.

and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”

“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.

Fleeing from sexual immorality in a relationship or even in your own personal life it’s hard for the person when it’s all you ever known and you are trying to do it with your own strength and will. In the first book of Corinthians the Apostle Paul tells the church of Corinthians flee from sexual immorality as you are not just sinning against your body but also the Holy Spirit as our bodies are his temple. When a relationship is just sexual the two people involved are transmitting each other spiritual diseases(demons). Having sexual relations would be more than okay if it’s within the covenant of marriage; as it is proclaimed in the book of Genesis;

God blessed them: “Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take charge! Be responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every living thing that moves on the face of Earth.”

This he told Adam and Eve. Marriage is a covenant between two people who become one and God( Genesis 2:24). He created you to reproduce and find fulfillment inside the marriage. People have sinned in that area since forever and will continue to if they don’t decide to leave that behind and be a new creature in Christ.

P.S. I will this blog post until here, I will be posting part 2 later in the week. Married and single people do comment down below 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻and let me know your thoughts and suggestion; I would love some feedback💕.I appreciate the love and support from every single one of you. Shalom🌸🌸🌸